Many people assume divorce will be a contentious event and in many situations it is – but it doesn't have to be. Couples often find themselves unable to see past the hurt and anger, to come up with the best resolutions on their own. A litigated divorce takes the control away from the couple and allows a court to make decisions for the couple and control the process. A Minnesota collaborative divorce may be the best option for couples who find themselves unable to remain married but want to control the process and avoid the pressures and aggravation of a litigated divorce.
A collaborative divorce requires that those involved be committed to working with and not against the other party. Each party must want to address the issues that need to be worked through before a divorce becomes final. Both parties must want to work together to achieve the best results for both of them, not at each other's expense.
In Minnesota, collaborative divorce is often a great option for couples with children. The process allows for the couple to maintain a non-adversarial position with their co-parent and often build a positive relationship for after the divorce. It can preserve and highlight the strengths of the family and tailor resolutions in the best interest of the children.
Couples who are accepting of the dissolution of the marriage and are able to manage their emotions and any attendant ill-will may find that a collaborative divorce works best for them. These are couples who no longer want to be married but are interested in the well-being of the other party. These couples often enter into a collaborative divorce with the goal of building and maintaining a constructive relationship once the divorce is final.
This does not mean that collaborative divorce is only for couples who currently work well together. Even those couples who have difficulty agreeing on issues can work through a collaborative divorce. Conflict is a part of the dissolution of any relationship and there will be disagreements. As long as the couple is committed to working through the collaborative process, the attorneys and other team members (financial neutral, child specialist, coach) can help the couple manage conflict and find a resolution that will work for both parties. In general, couples must be committed to the collaborative divorce process and each must be willing to work toward a positive resolution.
If you have questions about collaborative divorce in Minnesota, please contact Kimberly Miller today to schedule a free consultation.