For the process to be effective, both parties must understand the collaborative process and want to use it to resolve their legal matter. Encourage your spouse to visit www.collaborativelaw.org and learn more about collaborative divorce and find local attorneys and other collaborative professionals. Both of you should be doing your research. Another great website for more information on this practice is the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (www.collaborativepractice.com). You and your spouse could also come in to meet me together and I can review your options. After talking, I can recommend other collaborative attorneys or litigators if you decide on that process.